Anonymous: how old were you when u lost ur virginity
18
dream passionately.
love completely.
Hi I'm Lauren and I'm 21 years young and made in California. During the summer I'm at the beach constantly, if people still think I'm caucasian by the end of the summer I consider it failure. During the winter I am always snowboarding. I have an obsession with Corgis, blueberries, flannels, hookah, ridiculous cats, grilled cheese, science, and sunsets from mountain-tops. Santa Cruz is my home and will always be in my heart <3
Anonymous: So im 16, my bf wants a bj, i dont know how to give one. so here is my 2 questions:1) Should i or should i not give him one? 2) If i do, can you please explain to me how to give one?
Sure I guess give it to him. I explained how to give a bj in an ask recently on here, go look haha
Anonymous: i need advice :/ like really bad so im going to my older (shes 19 and im 17) cousins house next week for a couple days and shes in college and we are going to be hanging out with her friends that i dont know at all and i have really bad anxiety with meeting new people and i think we will be partying some. so i was wondering hope should i cope or help with my anxiety and stuff with the party. :(
Well I’m guessing if she’s in college you will probably be drinking. That itself loosens you up a lot and will make it a lot easier to meet people. Otherwise just focus on one person at a time. Always be polite and introduce yourself and smile. As long as you are smiling people can’t really dislike you haha. And then just try to pick one or two people to talk to so that you can feel “in” with the group. Once you do that you’ll feel a lot more comfortable. Talking to new people is easy, just ask them about themselves. People love to talk about themselves haha
Anonymous: this girl that i used to be friends with has a boyfriend and i like him. next year, he'll be going to my school and she'll leave to a different one. he shows signs of liking me back, but he has a girlfriend! i don't like his girlfriend though, we had a fallout when i told her i don't like her XD Any advice?
He has a GF, that’s really all you had to tell me. It sucks but that’s life and you can’t have him right now even if you don’t like her. Hopefully if he likes you he will break up with her in due time, but if he doesn’t then you can’t wait around for him, cha know?
Anonymous: so i was readin all ur questions and i saw one tha asked if they were wet enough? explain
Well when a girl gets aroused she produces natural lubrication. So being wet = being lubricated. It makes sex have less friction, kind of like WD-40 haha
Anonymous: Hi ok so I've been hooking up with my best friend. I've jacked him off a few times, and gave him a bj. I think I like him, and I'm pretty sure he likes me too, but he won't go any further. Should I stop seeing him altogether? I don't want to ruin the friendship or anything
What do you mean go further? Like you want to have sex and he won’t? He sounds like a good guy! He probably just wants to wait to make it special
Anonymous: k so ik u said its on ur main blog, but it keeps saying url not found. help? or just 1 more time? how to give a good bj
Grip the bottom of his dick with your hand (whichever you feel more comfortable with, I use right cause I’m right handed). Then use your mouth to go down on the rest while moving your hand up and down in the same motion. Change it up every once and a while. Lick the tip. Pause and smile at him then go back to what you were doing. Go fast and then slow it down. Go really deep and slow for a few strokes and then go fast. Keep it exciting and different, that’s what guys love.
Anonymous: What is anal sex? please explain.
Doing it in the butt. So a guy putting his dick into your butt instead of your vajay
Anonymous: sorry if i sent this beforee but idk if it went through! anyway i broke up with my ex 3 months ago, and he's already going out with this girl starting about a month and a half ago. the thing is is that they were "bffs" and im pretty sure she liked him while we were dating, cause he told me after we broke up (when he was pissed at me) that she invited him over to his house to "do stuff" (read sex) while we were still dating. its weird though cause normally i obsess over my ex's and not their
Dude what an asshole. If he’s going to crush on another girl while dating you, he doesn’t deserve you. And you know he’ll do the same thing to her. Guys with a wandering eye don’t change, they alwys want to try what’s “better”. grass is always greener syndrome. You’re better off I promise
Anonymous: please help me.. :/ i've been thinking about this guy nonstop and i can't even tell if he likes me or not.. how do i tell?
You gotta hang out with him! If he makes the effort to hang out with you and make physical contact and smile wiht you, chances are he’s into you
Anonymous: okay this isnt really a question more like a rant but if you have any advice feel free!!! LOL ok so im a very unaffectionate person. i love from a distance hahha idk why im just like that. not very intimate or affectionate but every guy that likes me or im with ends up being so overly emotional and affectionate and its so annoying when they complain that im not loving enough or caring enough like honestly if i wanted to date a girl id just be lez... LOL its so frustrating! -________-
OMG hahahaha this is hilarious because I was JUST talking to my best friend about this issue. She’s exactly like you and I’m a lot like you too. It’s super annoying. Girls get this stereotype of being the overly affectionate ones but really it’s TOTALLY the guys! You’ll find a guy who likes you for who you are, or who can learn to not be such a pussy about everything lol
Anonymous: part2: at his house to watch movies whtever. i was there for a while then the whole gettin closer, tickling stuff started then he kissed me and we started makin out on his couch 4 like an hour, the farthest we went was 2nd base and then i said i had to go and he walked me out & kissed me one last time pushing me up against my car. well after that he never texted me, i texted him but he still was never the first one to text me.y would he put in the effort since march if he just wanted to hook up?
Well, it’s possible that he wanted to hook up with you and once he “conquered” you, it became less interesting to him. Guys are so stupid, they are all about the chase and then once they have you they will often stop trying. I’ve experienced it countless times. It’s not about you so don’t get upset. It’s possible that he does like you though and just got weird after hooking up. Try to see if he starts putting in the effort again. If not then just write it off as a fun time and forget about him because there will be plenty more!
Anonymous: i've never given a blow job but i saw your response to the person who asked. i think i understand what to do but i feel like it won't fit in my mouth at all.... i have such a bad gag reflex i'm not sure how i'll be able to do it...
You don’t have to fit the whole thing in, you can just put like 2-3 inches in and then use your hand for the rest
Anonymous: So I'm really confused. There's this guy (of course) who will flirt hardcore with me and then he like wont talk to me at all. Since I've never had a boyfriend I have no clue what's going on. Like a week ago he called me beautiful and all of that stuff and then now I'm like one of his guy friends.. Help? D:
Haha welcome to the game! Where the first person who shows interest loses. This is how it works in young relationships. You unfortunately have to play back. So show interest, but not too much. The bottom line is, if he wants to make it happen, he WILL make it happen. If not, he probably just likes the attention from you. Most guys are perpetrators of the latter - everyone loves attention. So I’d say keep flirting but don’t expect anything. It may work out but it’s likely he’s just a flirt
